Etiquette

I love taking first timers and introducing them into the world of BDSM and trans people, but in my experience first timers tend to be most likely to be no-shows or to be disrespectful.

Most of these problems are due to ignorance and nervousness rather than actual intent to waste time or to be nasty, and I fully understand this. So if we are to have the best time together, I have created a guide to help you out!

Before you contact me:

Take a look at the ways you can serve me.  There is nothing wrong with being uncertain or inexperienced at all, in fact I love exploring things with people. That said I have such a wide variety of things I do, that I do need some idea of what you are in to before I agree to see you. It also helps reduce your nervousness and we can have a lovely conversation about what you might like and why these things work for you.

Be sure you are ready:

There is nothing worse than getting ready, spending hours making myself looking the best for you and generally putting a lot of effort into seeing you, only to have someone cancel on the day, or walk in and then out again. If you do want to cancel, please give me at least 24 hours notice. It is basic respect and politeness. Otherwise, don’t waste my time or yours, before you book a session, be certain you are ready to go through with it.

Please do not ask me for a discount, half hour sessions or to see me for free:

My time is valuable, there are hot guys and girls I play with in my personal life, and I choose them. I am a professional domme, and as such I will domme you, but I do expect tribute. If you want to become a personal slave, and don’t want to pay for play, you have the following options:

• Contact someone who is actively looking for personal slaves
• Become active in the BDSM scene and try to attract non-professional Dominant women
• See if your partner is interested in exploring BDSM with you.

All of these options are more effective than asking me to do my job without pay.

Contacting me:

The best thing is I can offer you a little script! how a perfect first exchange could go.

“Hi is this Laura/Mistress Laura? It’s (insert name here), I saw your ad on (website here)”

“Hi, (insert name here) Lovely to speak with you/I can’t speak right now”

This is perfect for a couple of reasons, I am not always at home or able to answer the phone with “Hi this is Mistress Laura” due to either being in public or other various reasons. Also it is lovely for you to introduce yourself, as putting a name to a voice is much more personable and polite, rather than me having to ask for your name.

I will usually ask you for a time, and for you to phone me to confirm the morning of the appointment. I will like to talk about what you might like, or would like in the session, however I do not operate a phone sex service so I will not engage in “sexy talk.” That can wait until our session.

Be respectful:

One of the worst parts of being trans, are people who take this as an excuse to be disrespectful, push boundaries or generally be irritating. I am your Mistress,  never call me BB, Baby, or sweety, if you want to use a different name, Laura will do fine. Be polite, don’t use slurs, don’t push boundaries, don’t beg me to make exceptions. I will not agree to a session with you, and we can’t have fun together.